Do you ever feel like you’re being pulled in too many directions?
Last night, I sat in the bathroom clipping my hot pink toenails while supervising bath time. Linus—just a week shy of his first birthday—patted the glistening bubbles while chewing lovingly on a spongy orange letter “P.” Three-year-old Linnea was busy mothering Mermaid Dora the Explorer.
“I’m sorry,” she said in her dainty, sugar-sweet voice as she stroked Mermaid Dora’s hair. “I’m sorry I can’t play the game right now. I have to go to work now. I’m sorry, honey.”
Should I be pleased that she portrayed Mom (me?) in a loving manner, or should I be distraught that Mommy=”not enough time for me?” Or both?
I’ve always fantasized about staying home while my kids are young, and recent changes in our child care situation have made me question whether working full time is really the answer, but it’s a complex decision. Money, long-term career goals, personal satisfaction, and intuition are all important factors.
I’m being pulled in so many directions these days. I want to publish my memoir, but being a successful author (whether indie or traditionally published) requires herculean marketing efforts. I want to care for and spend time with my kids, and I also want to have an outlet for my creativity and drive. Oh, and it would be nice to have some time left over for running, cooking, cleaning, going on dates with my husband, and spending time with family and friends. I also like books, sleep, and occasionally having enough energy to get it on.
That’s (apparently) a lot to ask.
I Want to Know
- Do you feel pulled in multiple directions?
- How do you manage the strain?