At the risk of sounding like Master of the Obvious, I’m going to go ahead and say that writing a book is hard. I suppose I knew this going in—in fact, that’s precisely why I wanted to do it. That and the fact that I have this story that’s just dying to be translated from brain to book.
Back in August, I stopped writing my blogoir so I could finish the story offline and edit the material into a memoir. It’s October, and I’m a little lost. I loved the process of writing in the blogoir format. I outlined the whole damn thing ahead of time, so each time I sat down to write, I knew what to do. And because all of you nice people were following along online, I felt a sense of urgency. I tried to post something new every four or five days, and I never got tired of trying to deliver.
Things are different now. I am enjoying this present-tense blog. I like writing about what’s on my mind and starting a conversation with you. But the book is a struggle. There’s less energy behind it right now. Less inspiration. And I hate that. I want to find it.
While Divorced Before 30 was going strong, I felt like I was writing for someone. I felt like people were on my team. With the book, it’s just me in my basement, trying to find my way. I have a loose plan, and I have a vision of the end result, but the path is not entirely clear.
What’s it going to take to get me refocused on this book? I need a team.
I know several people who are involved in Weight Watchers and AA, and for the last year, I’ve been involved in a Personal Renewal Group for Moms. I’ve found that being part of a group or team makes me strive to do better. Groups are usually about support and shared goals, but they’re also about something that’s so often the key to success: accountability.
So, I’m going to start my own little writing group. If you live in the Twin Cities and want to join me, I would love it. It’s not going to be time-consuming, because the last thing I (or you) need is another big commitment. No experience necessary—all you need is a writing goal.
I hope that adding this structure to my writing life will get me back on track. If you are struggling to accomplish a goal that means something to you, I encourage you to think creatively about how you can find—or create—the right team for you.
I Want to Know
- Are some things simply easier to accomplish as part of a group?
- How/when have you been successful in a group setting?
- Are there certain things that you’d rather struggle through on your own?
- Let me know if you are interested in joining my writing group (or send an e-mail to emma(at)emmawilhelm.com).