It's a new year. Feels good, doesn't it? I've been thinking a lot about everything that happened in 2013—from the super-high highs to the super-low lows. I've been thinking about that and wondering how to approach 2014. Should I set goals? Fairy-godmother wishes?
One of my best friends recently posted the following on Facebook: "Why can't everything just hurry up and work out exactly how I want it to?" I think she was (mostly) kidding, but don't we all feel that way much of the time?
How are we suppposed to respond when things aren't working out? When we can't find a new job, or when lasting love seems mythical? When we can't get pregnant, can't get out of debt, or can't shake the depression?
The thing is, lots of things in life never work out exactly how we want. Sometimes, they work out better. Sometimes worse. But at this point in time, we can't know. We can respond to this abiguity in lots of different ways—with determination, faith, or helplessness.
Generally speaking, I take the determination route. Action, action, action. But without a little faith, I quickly begin to feel like a failure.
I've worked my tail off this year to try to sell our house. And here it sits, covered in snow with a fading "for sale" sign in the yard.
I have to believe that the timing just hasn't been right yet. That waiting longer than I'd like will eventually lead us to the right house for us—maybe one that hasn't even hit the market yet.
So how am I going to approach 2014? I'm going to visualize what I want, be proactive about the pieces I can control, and remind myself that as frustrating as the waiting game can be, it's part of life's magic.
I'm wishing each and every one of you a magical 2014. I hope it brings you much love, peace, and adventure—hopefully in ways you can't even imagine yet.